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learned from risd: sunday morning’s shame is best alleviated with a trip to the mall

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learned from risd: sunday morning's shame is best alleviated with a trip to the mall

GIVEN MAN’S RELIANCE ON LANGUAGE for entrance into the symbolic order (see the Lacan module on psychosexual development), it is not surprising that, according to Lacan, we are not even in control of our own desires since those desires are themselves as separated from our actual bodily needs as the phallus is separated from any biological penis. For this reason, Lacan suggests that, whereas the zero form of sexuality for animals is copulation, the zero form of sexuality for humans is masturbation. The act of sex for humans is so much caught up in our fantasies (our idealized images of both ourselves and our sexual partners) that it is ultimately narcissistic. As Lacan puts it, “That’s what love is. It’s one’s own ego that one loves in love, one’s own ego made real on the imaginary level” (Freud’s Papers 142). Because we are working on the level of fantasy construction, it is quite easy for love to turn into disgust, for example when a lover is confronted with his love-object’s body in all its materiality (moles, pimples, excretions, etc.), the sorts of things that would have no effect on animal copulation. By entering into the symbolic order (with its laws, conventions, and images for perfection), the human subject effectively divorces him/herself from the materiality of his/her bodily drives, which Lacan tends to distinguish with the term “jouissance.”Note Through the Law (which we come to acknowledge by way of the Oedipus complex), the human subject effectively chooses culture over nature: “The primordial Law is therefore that which in regulating marriage ties superimposes the kingdom of culture on that of nature abandoned to the law of copulation” (40). That Law, for Lacan, is “identical to an order of Language” (40), specifically what he terms the symbolic order and it is supported by the symbolic fiction of the “Name-of-the-Father.”

Desire, in other words, has little to do with material sexuality for Lacan; it is caught up, rather, in social structures and strictures, in the fantasy version of reality that forever dominated our lives after our entrance into language. For this reason, Lacan writes that “the unconscious is the discourse of the Other.” Even our unconscious desires are, in other words, organized by the linguistic system that Lacan terms the symbolic order or “the big Other.” In a sense, then, our desire is never properly our own, but is created through fantasies that are caught up in cultural ideologies rather than material sexuality. For this reason, according to Lacan, the command that the superego directs to the subject is, of all things, “Enjoy!” That which we may believe to be most private and rebellious (our desire) is, in fact, regulated, even commanded, by the superego.

In constructing our fantasy-version of reality, we establish coordinates for our desire; we situate both ourselves and our object of desire, as well as the relation between. As Slavoj Zizek puts it, “through fantasy, we learn how to desire” (Looking Awry 6). Our desires therefore necessarily rely on lack, since fantasy, by definition, does not correspond to anything in the real. Our object of desire (what Lacan terms the “objet petit a”) is a way for us to establish coordinates for our own desire. At the heart of desire is a misregognition of fullness where there is really nothing but a screen for our own narcissistic projections. It is that lack at the heart of desire that ensures we continue to desire. To come too close to our object of desire threatens to uncover the lack that is, in fact, necessary for our desire to persist, so that, ultimately, desire is most interested not in fully attaining the object of desire but in keeping our distance, thus allowing desire to persist. Because desire is articulated through fantasy, it is driven to some extent by its own impossibility.

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Written by secondcousin

October 3, 2012 at 6:29 AM

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  1. fashiongirl wrote:
    That’s amazing to discover how bad you guys love heels. I have a passion for shoes, and I sure like to see men staring at my feets. And I didn’t imagine people would steal heels to cum on them. But I have to admit it’s kind of a turn on… What is the craziest thing you did with heels?

    Gary wrote:
    I don’t want to do anything ‘crazy’. All I want is for you to leave the house so I can cum all over your heels.

    fashiongirl wrote:
    No, I never let my boyfriend cum in my heels (they’re expensive shoes, I don’t really want to see them damaged)

    secondcousin

    October 2, 2012 at 6:47 AM

    • Ah the desire to expend what she stands for!
      Fashiongirl, keep leaving with them heels on if you want to keep the boy, and the shoes. But you know what that means.

      penisinvenus

      October 2, 2012 at 8:38 PM


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